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Self Love Sunday

Hello my lovelies, I hope you had a relaxing or productive weekend as I did with uni work. I can’t believe its Sunday again, I feel like I was only launching ‘Self Love Sunday’ yesterday and now its time for week two. Today I wanted to talk about self-love itself and how social media and the media itself affects this. Women representation in the media itself is something I am passionate about and is actually something I am doing for one of my units in uni. I want to share with you what I think about it all. 
It is very easy in today’s society to get wrapped up in the social media world, the older generation are always stating how we are never putting our phones down and I agree. I am that person and I am trying very hard to put my phone down more and engage with real life instead of virtual as I hate the habit. We are constantly scrolling through our social media feeds, Instagram being personally for me the problem. We are filled with the virtual idealisation of the ‘perfect’ figure or the ‘perfect’ life, however Instagrammers only put their best selves up in virtual reality to create that persona. No one decides to put pictures up of them crying or in their worst state.

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This isn’t my picture, this is from Stacey Solomons Instagram, which she recently put up to make people aware of body morphing. This is the worst thing out there for women. We are always shown the ‘perfect’ figure in magazines or social media platforms like Instagram but in pure fact perfect does not exist. Photoshopping someones body is an appalling thing to do, it not only causes self-esteem issues and maybe to the extreme an eating disorder because they are constantly being shown and told that the body they live in isn’t beautiful, but it creates this fake idealised body type that cannot be obtained unless digitally improved. Stacey Solomon worked with Celebrity Secrets Magazine to highlight how dangerous this type of body morphing is and how all body types should be celebrated no matter what shape or size.

I actually watched a video on Facebook recently about how 5 year olds are saying they don’t think they are beautiful and even to the state they think they are fat. This breaks my heart. For one, how are they getting access to social media which exploits them to this advertisement in order for them to make them feel this way. They are 5! They shouldn’t be on social media platforms or even have access to it, they should be colouring in books and playing barbies with their friends. However, of course there is physical advertisement that they see on a daily basis in shops and bus stops. But they shouldn’t and no women should feel this way, but it happens. We all can put our hands up and say we have compared ourselves to people online and we shouldn’t. We are our own person and we need to start loving the body we live in.

There needs to be more awareness of this topic so women feel beautiful for who they are not feel fat or ugly because social media or the media itself tells them otherwise. I know companies like Dove and The Body Shop do not Photoshop their campaigns and use real women. This is one of the reasons I love them brands because they are real. I am not slating other companies or magazines because they airbrush or Photoshop, that’s their job but please stop changing body types and creating this perfect women that doesn’t exist. It effects women way more than you think. I am not saying the media just affects women because of course men gain body issues as well. This is a massive world-wide problem that needs to start changing otherwise we are going to keep producing a generation that doesn’t love themselves for who they are, natural and real.

Thanks for reading, I could go on forever but I want to keep this short so I can carry on talking about subjects like this that are important to me on Sundays. Let me know what you thought of this post in the comments below and if you want me to talk about topics like this more.

Sophie Joan x


  1. January 14, 2018 / 12:14 pm

    This is such a strong and important topic and I wish more people would talk about it and realise what is actually normal! It’s so damaging to society and I would hate it if I had kids and they thought they were fat at just 5 years old how ridiculous! Great post
    Ellie x

    • January 14, 2018 / 12:27 pm

      Thank you so much, it needs to be made aware and I’m so passionate to talk about it!

  2. January 14, 2018 / 12:42 pm

    This is a great topic to touch in, I’m sure we can all relate. That photo of Stacy, you wouldn’t even know it was the same person – It shouldn’t be allowed! It gives such a distorted viewpoint. I love to read Vogue magazine but it’s the worst for retouching!! Often the image looks so distorted it’s glaringly obvious.
    Samantha x

  3. January 14, 2018 / 12:43 pm

    What a great post, I agree 100%. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others online, I love the fact that Stacey Solomon shared that, she’s such a great woman. How sad that 5 year olds think they’re fat 🙁 the world needs to change but sadly it will take a long time. Great post lovely. Clare xx | https://www.clayaa.com

  4. January 14, 2018 / 2:11 pm

    I can totally relate. I have never had such low self esteem before & im really trying to focus on that now! Love this post

    • January 14, 2018 / 2:13 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m so glad so many people are aware of this topic.

  5. January 14, 2018 / 5:31 pm

    I completely agree, social media can be so incredibly damaging!! xx

  6. January 14, 2018 / 7:10 pm

    Definitely an important topic! We all have days where we feel a bit grim about ourselves but think you’re right in that we need to love ourselves more!! X

  7. January 14, 2018 / 10:55 pm

    Very important topic and you covered it very well! I was actually reading the magazine with Stacy Solomon in just the other day. Definitely a great way to kick off 2018 ?x

  8. charlotteannelane103
    January 14, 2018 / 11:01 pm

    This is so true and more people need to talk more openly about these sorts of issues like you are. It’s really hard because I always feel like I should have a body like those I see on Instagram, etc. and it makes me feel a bit rubbish about myself, especially when I have to put a bikini on once a year.. Which is ridiculous I know, but sometimes we can’t help it! I wish body issues could be eradicated, as then we’d all be a lot happier. Great post 🙂 xo
    Char | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

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